Yesterday I mentioned that Tish Grier had sent me an email concerning The Plainly Obvious and I promised to post those thoughts if she gave her permission. Well, she did, and followed it with two additional emails. All of it is serious meat for the conversation, so without further ado, sink your teeth into what Tish said:
I’m dealing a bit with this right now–dealing with job and hobby blurring. So, I get what you’re saying about the subjective and objective blurring. I started to notice this a couple of years ago when the idea that sexual fantasies aren’t just fantasies–but are indications of what someone will actually puruse. The idea that a fantasy cannot be *just* a fantasy is slowly leaving our world.
Pop philosopies like The Secret play into this. It’s a load of crap, and I feel sorry for people who believe in it. But there’s lots of people who want to believe this kind of thing.–correction, need to believe this kind of thing. As long as things are going their way. And if they fail, they turn the self-loathing into a reason to work harder.
The Secret plays off of Protestant Work Ethic, too–where the best thing is to be industrious, and that everything should be work for the glory of some kind of G-d. The Puritan Protestants who founded this country disdained creativity unless it could yield a buck. If it could yield a buck, then it was ok. Otherwise it was “the devil’s work.”
So our work should be our hobbies. We shouldn’t have subjective worlds where “the devil” can come in. Whatever we think should manifest because this will keep us thinking the Right things. Only be good all the time. Never dream without a practical outcome.
Then when do we rest? when do we dream? when do our creative batteries get recharged?
Never. because it’s not about “gathering wool.” it’s about productivity. It’s about money. It’s about making fantasy reality because reality is nothing if it’s not a 24 hour dream come true. It’s about disavowing the subjective and living in the objective at all times.
I sometimes wonder if the ‘net’s had an effect on this. It’s always on. It’s a place where people unburden their ids and then, for some reason, snap–and try to make everything real.
I know that this way of thinking’s lead so many people to massive amounts of debit and no savings. Because it’s about making the dream come true. At whatever cost. Literally.
She followed it this morning with this:
I”m always amazed how the “g-d” of (some) psychotherapy works hand in hand with this strange “spiritualist” g-d that actually comes out of protestantism–and how it keeps us locked in a space between the real world and some other altered dream-place that can never exist. It keeps us working, working, working and spending, spending, spending in order to chase some capitalist dream of perfection on earth. And if we’re not happy doing all of this, just take a drug to ‘fix’ you up and get with it.
And this:
I had another intersting thought re the Secret…
the folks who are “successful” with the Secret are often people who have wicked good social skills and fantastic business acumen. For them, to claim it was “the Secret” that did it is a way for them to either remain blind to their own assets, or a way of deceiving others about how they got where they are.
“If I can do it, you can do it, too” is that kind of Horatio Alger crap that drives many of us bonkers. It’s never mind manifesting inasmuch as it is innate talents (social/business) or learned skills (social/business) But if you’re unconscious of your own process of going from Zero to Hero, then it’s easy to chalk it up to some mystical hoo-ha and mind-control that isn’t reality.
My business coach often says how she hates affirmations–that getting anywhere takes a lot of awareness and hard work! She’s written some great stuff about getting stuck in hope–and that you’ve gotta do stuff to make stuff happen. Participating in life is the real secret.
And then there’s my two-cents worth.
Reality is the stuff that doesn’t go away just because you stop believing in it. –Philip K. Dick.
(And he ought to have known.)