Last evening we had a repeat performance of Socrates Café, the Tremont edition (more at the close). We gathered at the Loop coffee house on West 11th for 90 minutes of discussion on: How should we, as individuals, treat the homeless or those in need?
The aspect of the conversation that I found, upon reflection, to be the most interesting was that the discussion quickly shifted to: how ought we treat poorly dressed people with bad hygiene who annoy us or whose presence makes us uncomfortable? I was close to that realization last evening when I began to talk about my friend Terry Kanago’s blog I See Invisible People. The vast majority of the homeless are not mentally ill, alcoholic or drug addicted men who need a bath and get in our faces asking for spare change.
The vast majority of street people (a term I prefer to homeless) are middle aged and older woman and their children who have lost their spousal safety net due to divorce, abuse, abandonment or other social tsunami. These women are invisible. They are everywhere around us but we don’t see them because they don’t want (our of fear, embarrassment or other factors) to be seen. (See comment in response to Mike Sauka below.)
We ought to treat all people with respect, dignity and kindness. We don’t often do that, wrapped up as we are — and I’m as guilty as anyone — in our own dramas.
Not only do the invisible people hide themselves, we choose to not see them.
(On the matter of the Tremont Edition, after last evenings sessions I asked several members how they felt of making our Westside appearance a regular affair, alternating with our Eastside gatherings at the Lee Road Phoenix. The plan would be to meet on odd months — January, March, May, July, September and November — at the Loop and at the Mayfield Road Phoenix coffee house on the even months: February, April, June, August, October and December. Thoughts everyone?)