Listening to Morning Edition the other day, I learned about Elder Wisdom Circle, an organization that draws on communities of senior citizens to offer life advice. While I think that some people are sincere when they ask for advice, most are, I believe, looking for validation. Just look at listeners/viewers of doctors Laura and Phil.
Your dear Aunt Sally would most likely be very happy to tell you that you need to get off your butt and stop stuffing your face with potato chips. And the reason you can’t seem to find a nice girl? Ask Grandpa. I’m sure he has plenty of advice about the low possibility of finding one at the local titty bar.
Yet Elder Wisdom has a point. Speaking as one who has crossed over to the other side of 50 and is dodging AARP junk mail, I know that we live in a society that does not generally value the wisdom that comes with experience. The role of wise men and women doesn’t exist in most communities. And there are a lot of reasons for that.
The most obvious reason has to be that being older does not mean I’m smarter. Yes, I’ve made stupid mistakes — for instance there was that unfortunate incident involing two Greek sailors and several bottles of something Ouzo-like in Hong Kong — and learned from them, but I don’t know that telling anyone that they were stupid mistakes would make any difference.
What I think are missing is not elders, but rather heroes. Heroes today tend to be those who are rich and famous, those being the primary measurements in the 21st century for sucess. It think that’s sad.
My heroes are men and women are not typically rich or famous in a Hollywood kind of way. But they are people who have lived lives that on their deathbeds they could look upon and say, I did pretty well.
If you could nominate someone to an elder council, who would you name?
My Soundtrack: Behold The Wolf by Summerbirds In The Cellar on WOXY.