As a veteran of too many improve yourself books, I’ve noticed universal themes that must all go back to a shaman sitting in front of his cave exhorting the members of his tribe to really excel at killing antelopes by being the hunter they want to be. I’ve long understand the concept that we become who we think we are and the by changing our self-image we can change how others view us.
Can I become the next Michael Jordon? No. There is a vast gray area between fantasy and reality, but reality itself, at least as far as we perceive the world to be, is mutable.
To that end Lawrence Block is embarking on leading me through the process as it regards being a writer. In chapter 11 of Write For Your Life — “As A Writer Thinketh” Block writes:
What you think is what you get.
Does this sound like something you may have heard before?
Well, of course it is. The first time I wrote on this subject, in an article with Writer’s Digest featured on the cover of the April ’84 issue (“Overcoming the Ultimate Writer’s Block”), I discussed this proposition at some length. I drew more mail with that article than with anything I’d ever done for WD, almost all of it gratifyingly favorable.
One dissenting letter, however, said in essence, “This is nothing new.” Well, no fooling. Whoever said it was? The notion that our thoughts produce our reality is a lot older than I am. My correspondent cited Coué, the Frenchman who came over here in the 1920’s and had half the country chanting “Everyday in every way I am getting better and better.” The principle antedates Coué. It may well be as old as time, or at least as old as thought.
Henry Ford (who may or may not be older than Coué, you could look it up) said, “If a man thinks he can or cannot perform a task, he’s right.” And the author of the Book of Proverbs put it this way: “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”
I especially like that last because it so completely embodies the precept I’m trying to get across. As a man thinketh, not just in the conscious portion of his mind, but throughout his being, in his heart—so is he.
It’s not terribly difficult to grasp the idea that thought and writing ought to be somehow connected. After all, writing is quite obviously more a mental activity than a physical one. You don’t write better by hitting the typewriter keys harder. You write better by thinking of the right words and putting them down in the right order. It doesn’t take great strength to do this, or exceptional hand-eye coordination, or blinding speed. The skills involved are mental skills.
Of course, that can work against us as easily as for us and Block dives into the dark side in the next chapter, “The Power Of Negative Thinking,” where he begins with a few examples of negative thoughts.
My writing will hurt other people. It’s not safe to let people know who I really am. People will hate me if they know what I’m really like. It’s not safe for me to succeed. I don’t deserve to succeed. It’s not safe for me to express myself.
Sweeping negative statements like these are what we call personal laws. Your personal law is the most significant negative belief you have about yourself, and we call it that because it’s personal, individually designed with you in mind, and because it’s a law in that you march in obedience to it.
(Now might be a good time for you to take a breath.) I want to stress two things right now about your personal law.
1. IT’S NOT TRUE. It’s a lie you’ve made up to tell yourself.
2. IT OPERATES AS IF IT WERE TRUE. You make it come true by struggling to disprove it while sabotaging your own best efforts at every turn. p. 117
I’m going to give you the start of a sentence. Read it, think about it, close your eyes, ponder it, take a breath—and then open your eyes and write down the rest of the sentence.
Ready? Here’s the sentence:
“THE WORST THING ABOUT MY WRITING IS—”
Now take a breath and write down what comes to mind. Let’s try it again. I’ll say the same thing a little differently, and what you write down may be the same phrase or it may be a different one.
Here we go: “MY MOST NEGATIVE THOUGHT ABOUT MYSELF AS A WRITER IS—” Take a breath and write down the thought.
And, from a slightly different angle: “MY BIGGEST OBSTACLE TO WRITING SUCCESS IS—” Take a breath and complete the sentence.
And, finally: “THE VERY WORST THING I CAN SAY ABOUT MY WRITING IS—” Take a breath and write it down.
Now take a look at what you’ve got written down. You should have four brief sentences of the sort listed at the beginning of the chapter. Read them over to yourself and try to find the most basic one, the strongest one, the one that carries the most emotional charge with it. One of them may seem to be the foundation from which the others sprout. Pick that underlying sentence and circle it.
That’s your personal law.
Not surprisingly, this was the most difficult exercise so far and I’m thinking they’re going to get more so.
Here’s how I responded:
The worst thing about my writing is that it brings me attention.
The most negative thought about myself as a writer is that I’m a fraud.
My biggest obstacle to writing success is that I’ll be exposed.
The very worst thing I can say about my writing is that it is dishonest.
Number three — The most negative thought about myself as a writer is that I’m a fraud — is the one that kicked me in the gut. That’s a hell of a personal law.