I AM PADDLE TO THE SEA TAUGHT A GOOD LESSON…
0800 by Jeff Hess
When I was in fourth grade I remember watching a movie in class where a woodcarver carefully shapes a toy canoe with a tiny figure in the seat, stabilizes his creation with lead and then walks from his cabin and out into the snow to set the boat down under a tree before returning to his hearth. We did not expect what happened next.
[Thanks to the miracle of the Internet, I needed less than 20 seconds to not only identify the movie—Paddle to the Sea:
a 1966 National Film Board of Canada short live-action film directed, shot and edited by Bill Mason, based on the 1941 children’s book Paddle-to-the-Sea by American author and illustrator Holling C. Holling. The film follows the adventures of a child’s hand-carved toy Indian in a canoe as it makes its way from Lake Superior to the Gulf of Saint Lawrence, through Canada’s waterways.
—but to also find the full, 28-minute movie on YouTube.]
This memory came to me this morning while reading the sixth desideratum—Step Out From Under Your Parental Shade—of James Hollis’ Living An Examined Life because the woodcarver was a good parent. He did his best craft a fine creation with love and attention, provided the necessary stabilization with the lead ballast, and even carved a helpful message—I am paddle to the sea. Please put me back in the water—on the bottom in case the journey was interrupted. Then he let his creation free in the world. That is my idea of a good parent. Hollis writes:
There are no “good old days.” Memory is deceptive, and what is longed for is the unconsciousness, that “certainty” that comforted the ignorant and kept them safe within their fixed categories of belief and behavior. It was a constrictive world, an ignorant, fear-bound, prejudicial and bigoted world, and I am grateful so much of it is gone. p. 29-30
I hated my high school years. They sucked in so many ways I cannot begin to describe them. College, and my time in the Navy, however, I remember with great fondness. But I agree with Hollis, there were many more moments that I thought were horrible than those that weren’t. Yet, for some reason, perhaps because I felt a certain agency, an ability to steer my course, those were good years. I’ve never longed for “the good old days” (though there are seminal moments I would like to relive and perhaps get better the second time) and even in the final portion of my life, I am not nostalgic. I relish the adventure ahead.
In the face of such large examples, such overt and convert instructions, we have three choices: repeat what we saw, serve the messages; run from them in to over compensation; or try to “fix the problem,” heal the split within in any way, little knowing what gave rise to and sustains the split within us.
Most commonly we serve the model, the instructions, the stuck places we experienced in our families of origin, churches, synagogues, mosques and neighborhoods. All children desperately need some security, some reassurance, and what is more secure than common values, common practices, common prohibitions, common marching orders and common expectations to meet? Only if we make the mistake of travel and find that there is another world, another set of choices over that hill, do we tumble into the larger world of possibilities. And so the stifling patterns roll over into the next generation until, as in the ancient Greek tragic trilogies, some person suffers enough, comes to consciousness enough and breaks the skein of cause and effect. Only when the incestuous values of tribalism—the most emotionally seductive but psychologically primitive, culturally impoverished, and dangerous idea of all—are transcended does renewal ever come to the person or group. p. 30
I’ve been fortunate to have been afforded the third path. My early life models came from books because both my grandfather and father were readers and I followed their example. I learned what I knew of a world outside of my home inf Warren Township, in rural southeastern Ohio, because I had a library card.
Jung’s comment that the largest burden the child must bear is the unlived life of the parent is a stunning reminder of the silent cost these generations bear. p. 31
I was spared, whether intentionally or no—this burden and like Holling’s caoe, I was set loose in the world by a loving woodcarver. Hollis concludes:
Through the years, so many conscientious parents have asked me, “How can I spare my children this discord through which I have had to pass?” My answer has always been something of a disappointment to them. The one thing parents can do for their children is live their lives as fully as they can, for this will open the children’s imagination, grant permission to them to have their own journey and open the doors of possibility for them. Wherever we are stuck, they will have a tendency to be stuck also or will spend their life trying to overcompensate. Living our own journey as fully as possible is not only a gift to our soul, it also frees up the generations behind us to live theirs as well. The very freedom to live our lives that we wished from our parents, we thereby grant to our children to live theirs. p. 32
Without knowing of Hollis while I was a teacher, this was always my philosophy; to provide the example and provide the basics so that my students might do with what they have what they will.








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